Learning to See

It is but a dream to see peace in this cruel world, but as we think about Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky’s, ten steps to a better, more satisfying existence, we overlook the wrong that comes out people in this wretched world.  I have chosen one step that probably ranks higher than the nine others. I choose Learning to forgive. Forgiveness is not an easy task for anyone. Many people in this world end their days with grudges against people for probably the stupidest things, I know I have. We should be able to forgive everyone in this world because we don’t know whether or not this will affect us in the long run. If we learn to forgive we will move one step closer to being complete. What I mean by being complete is that we will experience a euphoria that will make us feel alive. For example me, when I forgave a person that I had been keeping a grudge on, for some number of years, it made me feel better. This probably made me the person I am today. We do not have to sit down in a room with the person we forgive and talk to them for hours, we can do this from our room. Say on a phone, through the computer, or even in our hearts. Many people don’t think that this is possible. Forgiveness in the heart rather than in person is not good, but it will help you feel better. That was how I forgave my closest friend's, my family members, and even myself. We can even forgive ourselves because we will never know how to live unless everyone one is forgiven, and if everyone excludes you than what was the point of forgiveness to begin with? We as humans have a soul that speaks to us. In psychology this is called an id, but in many cultures this is a superego, the thing that guides you. When we listen to it we seem to feel regret or failure. To me that was true, at one point I could never go a day without feeling bad about failing at something, or regret doing another thing, but when I learned to forgive that person who did those things I started to cure my self. I became a person that could overachieve. That would not feel bad at failing because that failure only made him a better person. I would never regret doing anything because we only get to live this life once. This was me with forgiveness, but how about before all that, who was I? Was a person no one would talk to? Was a person who was never interacted? When I first began this journey I was just that. I was a person who was lost. I would stay home most of the time. I never knew who I actually was. This was horrible because without knowing who I was or what to do with the rest of my life, I was lost. This is why learning to forgive is very beneficial to a human being because knowing how to forgive will cure many symptoms of depression. It will make you feel happy. I know words are not great descriptions of forgiveness; it is the actions of humans that make a difference. When we see another human being forgive we tend to want the same thing. That person that forgives feels happy so why cant I, you say. This is because you are lost. This is because you are not on the right path of righteousness. It is tough being a human who forgives, but that forgiveness that you do exert, is what will cure you for the rest of what we call a normal human life.